How not to act on a first date | 7 mistakes that will send her running

The first date.

There’s something low-key scary about it, for the girl and definitely for the guy. For the guy, because he’s hoping and praying all that texting and setting P and all those Instagram photos did not lie and he makes a good first impression also. In this woke era we find ourselves in, we all know sometimes what you see is not always what you get. On the other hand, you may like her already and a bit worried she won’t be all you envision.

Whatever it is that is ‘doing you’, going on a first date can feel like walking a tightrope. So, get in here and digest these mistakes before you get an epic backfire moment, we warned you!

1.My guy, abeg keep your hands to yourself

You might think that touching her a lot on the first date shows that you’re into her. NOPE. You may just come across as a creep or come across as just plain horny. Limit touch to natural, friendly, and warm NOT sexual, help her out of your car but don’t drape your arm around her neck and hold her close the entire time.

2. Oga, speak up

You may be you the strong, silent type, but all she sees is a guy who’s either emotionally closed off or super boring, she will simply port in her mind. No time. There are a thousand and one topics to discuss, plan to do something you know a lot about, and are passionate about, and you’ll have loads to talk about.

3. Make the conversation a two-way

Yes, you have to talk about yourself but you do not need to go on and on and on about yourself and all your accomplishments. It portrays selfishness or worse: that you have no interest in her, iit can seem like you’re just waiting for the date to be over so you can get her into bed. What you should do if you’re not sure is start from her job, women love when men are genuinely interested in their work and ambitions.

4. Don’t drop the F-WORDS

Women may love bad boys, but swearing like a sailor doesn’t make you look hot, at all. It may seem like its cool but it gets irritating quickly. In fact, curb the cursing habit now, in anticipation of all your first dates and job interviews.

5. Do not name drop

Bros, this particular habit is the most annoying thing any person can do, date or not. If you spend the date dropping names, as in: “I know Linda Ikeji, she was elder sister’s classmate, or “I text Mr. Eazi, he’s my guy, then you sound like a try-hard who needs celebrity clout to get her interested.

6. Skip talking so much about money

Talking about money is just weird, —whether it’s about how much you have or don’t have. She doesn’t want to hear that you’re worried about it or to hear you bragging about how much you have.

7. Be a gentleman

Hollup. Nothing too deep, but that doesn’t mean you should slack on your manners. Letting the door slam in her face, talking down to waiters, and spending the entire date glued to your phone are all behaviors that she won’t find attractive. Simple gestures like having good table manners and opening doors for her.

P.S: Golden dating rule: Stay off your phone.

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