by S’ola Filani
You want to know what true love is, ask the Obolis – today is their 14th wedding anniversary but they still dot on each other like they are a newly-wed couple.
Nollywood actress Omoni Oboli who made her directorial debut with the ‘hit’ movie “Being Mrs Elliot” this year, is one of the few celebrities that can boost of a solid home today and she credits that achievement to Christ.
In marking their 14th wedding anniversary, the mother of three adorable boys has disclosed the magic that has kept her marriage to her best friend, Nnamdi going….enjoy her quick chat with YNaija below:
On how today’s celebration: It’s going to be great in Jesus name! Not just because we have heaven on earth planned out, but because we know how to make every moment we have as a couple count. That’s all I can say. The rest is private business. Hehe!”
People always refer to your marriage as a successful celebrity marriage. What is the secret of being able to hold on to your marriage for 14 years and you remain inseparable?
For one, we don’t see our marriage as a celebrity marriage but as a union between this home girl and her homeboy. We keep it simple when it comes to our relationship, meaning that we don’t let other people or issues of life complicate what God has joined together. God ordained our marriage, so it’s Him that will also perfect it. I’ve always said that a threefold chord is not easily broken, and that is myself, my husband and God. That is the real secret to our marriage, being built on the foundation of Christ. We always communicate, we don’t just talk, because many people talk but aren’t communicating, so that many things are being said but get totally lost in translation.
Has it always been a smooth ride – no hiccups, arguments?
I’m not exactly mother Theresa, and my husband is not angel Michael either. We have our moments, but true love always covers a multitude of sins. The smooth ride in our marriage is based on the quality of the shock absorbers of the vehicle carrying our marriage, the word of God. The road may be bumpy, but we are well able to enjoy the ride because it is well cushioned in the word of God we trust. Arguments show our individuality and it’s a good exercise to help get the best result, but that’s what it is, an argument, not for us to read other meanings into a simple disagreement. That would be manipulative, when we want to use emotional blackmail to get the other person to bend to our will. My husband and I don’t fall into that category.
How do you easily combine your duty as a mother, wife and an actress?
“I’ve got to do what I’ve got to do,” that’s what I always say. As a mother, I will never neglect my children, and they come before my work. As a wife, I’m duty bound to meet all the needs of my husband, which also means meeting my own needs. As an actress, my work speaks for itself, and my fans and audience would tell when I start slipping, so my A-game must always be brought to the table. The balance comes from the fear of God and good home-training.
Is there anything you don’t like about your husband?
Like I said, love covers a multitude of sins. We both have faults that our love is bigger than, and it’s not for the world to know. It’s called marriage, and it’s only between a man and his wife. What I can tell you is that the things I don’t like about him pales before all the things that I love about him. This feeling is mutual.
If you are to advise young couples, what would you tell them?
When marriage begins, selfishness ends. So don’t throw your marriage away for want of those things that only gratify you and not your spouse. Stay committed and give room to only one other voice other your husband’s or your wife’s, the voice of God.
Oh by the way, she wrote a beautiful ode to honour her husband on her Instagram page.
“14 years don waka! We still dey carry go, nobody waka, no body go solo! 14 years of everything! Fun, laughter, love, companionship, headache, craziness lol! My boyfriend, my lover, my everything! There’s no me without you @nnamdioboli The wind beneath my wings! I can soar because you let me! May God keep us going stronger as the years go by! Love you to infinity and beyond! #Happy14anniversaryTheObolis #Wekeepgoingstrong #WeareRoyalty”
We wish the Obolis many years of Joy, Love and Laughter