Stop looking for signs of your own progress in other people’s eyes or actions. You know where you are coming ...
I like to make a small difference between holding myself responsible for something or holding myself accountable. The former means ...
When people come to meet me for advice, they often want me to look into my life’s situations and tell ...
I always laugh when younger people tell me in an urgent voice, the voice you use when you have something ...
I used to make this mistake a lot, and today I continue to be surprised when people make that elementary ...
Therapy helps. But when it comes to emotions, therapy is about management more than anything else. And what you want ...
You know when you break up with someone you shouldn’t have been with, end a business partnership you shouldn’t have ...
No matter what other drivers are doing, you can’t move forward if you spend your time looking at them. Some ...
One of the interns at one of our companies came to spend an evening with me – he had things ...
That relationship you’re in, that friendship you’re participating in, that business you’re running, that church or mosque or temple you’re ...
I shared a mail from someone who said she doesn’t understand what I mean by being perfect or complete as ...
Two years or so ago, I was selected for a Stanford programme for entrepreneurs. It was, of course, a prestigious ...
When I posted on social media in December about feeling sadly and barely avoiding the pit of depression, I was ...
You are counting all the people who didn’t say yes to you, didn’t stay with you, didn’t love you the ...
There is nothing wrong with striving to improve your life situation. You can improve your life situation, but you cannot ...
If you’re a committed reader of this newsletter, then you probably know what I know: that money doesn’t lead to ...
I like drama. I am also naturally given to drama. And I attract a number of dramatic people to myself. ...
New you, yeah? Well, how has that worked for you all these years? For much of you, not very much. ...
We speak a lot about emotions in the newsletter (The Daily Vulnerable). Because emotions are often the way we react ...
I shared one of the most profound moments of my life with the audience of TEDx Ungwarimi, where I was ...
Friend, ask me: “Do you care what people think about you, Chude?” My answer will be this: “On most days? ...
Sometimes your friends will be unreasonable. Sometimes they will be annoying, they will say the wrong things, do the wrong ...
Too many people are living under the disapproving eyes of others, or themselves. Too many people are in the prison ...
I was at dinner with a mentor the other day, and he asked me, “So are you still based outside Nigeria?” Now, ...
When I began to learn about living a joyful life, I would find myself ashamed whenever I was sad. Almost ...
…for living what Brene Brown calls a “wholehearted” life – what I call a life of “joy”? Authentic + Courage ...
When someone asks you a favour, if your reply is “I sadly don’t have the money. I haven’t even paid ...
Are you one of those people whom someone told when they were young, in school, powerless or needing help of some ...
When others respect you or love you, or in other ways hold you in esteem, there is always the temptation for them ...
People like perfect stories, Friend. Be careful. “I haven’t had any alcohol in 5 years,” for instance. But are you ...