Text flirting is a lot of fun, but the problem with texting is that fact that you can’t convey tone. Make sure that all of the words you chose can be easily understood as a flirty message and not taken too seriously. It’s not hard, just make sure that the words are lighthearted and fun.
1. BLANK TEXT
I know this text flirting idea sounds a little wacko, but just give it a shot! Send your man a blank text, and then see what happens. He will usually text back and say “I got a blank text from you. What’s up?” This is your opportunity to respond with a casual, “Oh, I didn’t know I sent you a text! My phone must have been missing you :)” From there, the two of you can engage yourselves in sweet talk!
2. SEND A PICTURE
This maybe the oldest trick in the book, but that’s probably because it works so well! Sending your sweetie a picture of you will get him to thinking about you. Make it sweet, crazy, cute or a little sexy, but whatever you do, never EVER send nude or partially nude photos of yourself through text. There are too many dangers out there or embarrassing photo scams waiting to happen. A picture of your gorgeous smiling face is enough to satisfy your man!
3. CHEESY PICK-UP LINES
Ya gotta love cheesy pick up lines for text flirting! Whether they are cutesy or silly, they are sure to bring a smile to your significant other’s face. Here’s a few to try: “Hey good lookin’ watcha got cookin’?” “Uh-oh….my heart’s missing! Did you steal it?” “Let’s make like fabric softener and snuggle!” “We go together like peanut butter and jelly!”
4. COMPLIMENT YOUR SWEETHEART
There’s no better way to text flirt than to compliment each other on what you like best. Compliment your man’s good looks, his athletic abilities, his personality features, or what he was wearing earlier in the day. Men love to be adored and admired by women, so heap on the praise! Just don’t overdo it! You don’t want to be too sugary sweet. He might think you are sucking up to him for no good reason!
5. SHORT AND SWEET TEXT FLIRTING
When text flirting, always remember this one little tip. It’s a good idea to keep things short and sweet. Men aren’t usually interested in reading a book, nor do they have the time and patience to sit there and type you a four page response back. So keep your flirting short, sweet and to the point. You can draw it out, texting for hours at a time or even all day-as long as you keep your texts short, you will keep his interest as well!
6. TEXTING VERSUS SEXTING
I’m going to make a quick little point that I’m sure all mothers will agree with me on. I’m not a mother, but I do have siblings. And I think I’m within bounds by stating that minors, especially minors 16 and under, should not be sexting one another. It’s actually illegal in some states now! Sexting versus texting is a broad subject, one with many opinions I’m sure. But the point is, while there may be no harm in flirting by text, there’s a lot of harm in sext flirting and for young minors in particular!
7. SPELL CHECK
If there’s one thing that drives me mental about text flirting, or texting in general, it’s when people don’t know how to spell right. Especially for adults! It’s hard to be in a flirty mood when the grown-up adult person you are texting is sending messages that you have to encode into your computer to understand! It’s one thing when teens do it, but for adults it should be over-ruled. Keep your flirting mature. That will be appealing on its own level!
8. MARRIED COUPLES-TEXT FLIRTING
Here’s an idea about flirting! Married couples should still do it! It helps keep the honey in the honeymoon, and the spark in the love life! This is the one instance where sexting might be appropriate. But that is up to your discretion of course! You can still have fun with good old flirting without the innuendo. And you should! Just because there’s a ring on your hand doesn’t mean you need to let things get boring and predictable. Liven things u with a little text flirting every now and then!
9. PERSONALIZE IT
No matter what you do when text flirting, remember to make it YOU. Keep it personal! Don’t try to say things uncharacteristic of you, you’ll just come off sounding flaky and contrived. You certainly don’t want that! Put some of your own style into your messages. Whether it be crazy, spunky, spontaneous or romantic and poetic, make it uniquely yours. He will appreciate that more than anything, and you will feel good about yourself for being able to make him feel good!
One really fun thing to do through texting is to create “invitations.” You can invite your sweetheart to do anything through a text and keep it fun and lighthearted. Here’s a few “invitation” ideas to try. “You, me, pizza and Star Wars. My place. Tonight. Be there or be square!” “One evening walk under the stars with the lovely ______(insert name) tomorrow evening at 9 pm. Care to join?” “Hey how about you and me head over to see the new movie tonight after work? I’ve already got the tickets ;)”
11. EMBRACE EMOTICONS
Some people can find emoticons really annoying, but they can be helpful when you’re trying to flirt. Why not throw in a winky face 😉 or even just a smile :)? If you’re really comfortable you can even throw in a kiss : *, I know it doesn’t look like a kiss, but it will on your phone. The emoticons can help to get across the fact that you’re flirting, which could be completely missed in texting because it’s just reading. Using emoticons definitely helps to get the message across.
12. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY
Ok so this isn’t really an idea, but it is an important tip. Text flirting is a lot of fun, but the problem with texting is that fact that you can’t convey tone. Make sure that all of the words you chose can be easily understood as a flirty message and not taken too seriously. It’s not hard, just make sure that the words are lighthearted and fun. The worst would be if your crush or whoever you’re texting misunderstands you and take what you’re saying the wrong way. It’s not hard to do, just think before you text!
13. TEASE THEM
Just like if you’re flirting in person, you can tease your crush. If they tell you they’re watching a cheesy movie or have been doing the same activity for hours, just make a joke. Of course this has to be lighthearted and should probably end in a “haha” or “lol” because you want them to know you’re kidding. Hopefully this will open up a door where they can tease you back and you two will have fun teasing each other. Of course it always has to be in good fun, never say anything that could come across mean or hurtful in any way.
14. DON’T BE TOO EAGER
Eventually the conversation is going to wind down, don’t be the one trying to find reasons to keep it going! This could come across a little desperate and nobody wants that. It could also seem like maybe you’re just bored and want to talk to someone instead of wanting to talk to them. Texting isn’t meant to be the only form of communication between you either, so instead of trying to push the conversation ask them to hang out or something like that. This will get you to put the phone down and see each other and will help you to not look to eager.
15. DON’T DRUNK TEXT FLIRT
Unless this person is someone you’ve been dating for a while and you feel completely sure that your flirting won’t come across in a negative way, avoid this at all costs. The kind of flirting at comes out when you’re under the influence is probably not the kind that sober you would appreciate. This could be very embarrassing as well as make you look desperate or a little too easy, all depending on what you say. When you’re under the influence try your hardest not to try and text flirt, chances are you’ll be annoyed with yourself the next morning
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