Nosa Osas: Of love, choices and the ripple effect (30 Days, 30 Voices)

by Nosah Osas



”We either choose to stay behind or move forward, there’s no middle ground.”

We are born, we live, we die, sometimes not necessarily in that order. We put things to rest to have them rise again. So if death is not the end, what can you count on anymore? Because you sure can’t count on anything in life. Life is the most fragile, unstable, unpredictable thing there is. Infact, there’s only one thing in life we can be sure of- our choice.

Every choice we make brings us further to the health, relationship and life we want. Every choice we make gives us a new opportunity to either learn, grow and evolve or stay stagnant, small and stuck. Every choice we make either opens the door to a new way of thinking, acting and behaving or pulls us further into an old belief system, pattern or way of living that no longer serves us. We either choose to stay behind or move forward, there’s no middle ground.

We make hundreds of choices such as what to eat, how we dress, how to relate to those around us, care for our body, nurture ourselves etc. For most of us, many of these choices are habitual, we fail to recognize that we choose to do them, thus we don’t even know we make them. The truth is we enter the world alone, we leave it alone, and whatever happens in between we owe it to ourselves to find a little company.

Everyone needs help, we all need support. Otherwise, we are in it all by ourselves. Strangers cut off from each other and we forget just how connected we are; so instead we should choose love, choose life. Our choices are like ripples, one simple ‘yes’ could cause a series of other events to happen.


Nosah Osas loves taking pictures. She blogs at

30 Days 30 Voices series is an opportunity for young Nigerians from across the world to share their stories and experiences – creating a meeting point where our common humanity is explored.

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