8 (important) things to know when dating a player

by Julia Melko

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Dating a player is a huge challenge and it’s not every woman’s dream. But sometimes a woman falls in love so quickly and strongly that she doesn’t want to realize that she is dating a player.

If you realize that you are dating with a player, but don’t want to break up with him, here are a few important things to know when dating a player. Dating a player can be quite dangerous and can even lead to a heartbreak. Remember it.

1. Insincere conversations

Normal relationship usually consists of sincere and trusting talks and frank treatment. It’s wonderful when you can share common goals, plans, dreams and when we are curious about the past. The player isn’t the one who is really interested in all these points. Your talks usually contain superficial information.

2. Cancellations all the time

Do you often get calls or messages that your date is going to be cancelled again? Moreover, it happens at the last moment and always makes you feel despondent. It indicates a lack of respect and he doesn’t really value your time and intentions. If you have the same thing, it’s a direct signal for you to take measures.

3. Constant weeknight dates

If to think logically, the best and the most suitable time for dating is a Friday or a Saturday evening, but you are invited on weeknights only. Do you really know what is he doing all these time? Maybe he has a family or another girlfriend?

4. Tardy lust

A player usually calls and texts at night, leading dirty and lascivious talks and chats. If you look for serious and healthy relationship, you’d better forget him or be careful with this randy night warrior. It’s hard to break up with him, but you deserve a better man, trust me.

5. Invisible friends

You are fed up with stories about his invisible friends? Have you ever seen them? Players never introduce a girl to their family and closest friends and I hope you know the reason why… This sign is the most meaningful signal. Just throw a small party and ask your boyfriend to invite his friends, and you’ll see he is a real player.

6. Social network signals

Social network is a wonderful thing that allows you to collect one’s personal information. Nowadays it’s not necessary to be a detective, because social media can show you his friends, especially opposite sex ones. Moreover, you can even notice some provocative comments.

7. Sweet lies

They say that liars need a good memory. Even professional and charismatic players usually become tangled in their own lies. Telling lies is not the best way to hide something. When you are in love with him, you might not notice his sweet lies. But can you imagine building a strong, happy family with him? Consider this important thing before continue with the dating.

8. The buddy circle

You can make a quick conclusion about the person, by just investigating the circle of his direct and indirect contacts. If your boyfriend invites his friends to your party, pay attention to the way his friends behave and treat him and you. This is a good way to find out many interesting and secret things about your lover.

Dating a player is not a catastrophe at all. Someone finds it amusing while others suffer from constant games with emotions. If you seek for strong, lasting and serious relationship, dating with a player isn’t acceptable at all, because it’s a high way to damage your self-esteem and make you suffer from constant heartbreaks.

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