7 ways to make sex last longer

by Frank Kobola

 

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When you’ve been with the same partner for a while, your routine sex positions can make his body anticipate coming, and thus come a lot sooner. 

According to a recent study, most people’s sexual romps last about 1:30 – 7 minutes. But, as Dr. Harry Fisch writes in his new book “The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grownups”, 45 percent of men come in two minutes or less, leaving their female partners orgasmless. Here are some ways to extend your man’s sexual stamina, and more likely have an orgasm yourself in the process.

1. Have him masturbate beforehand.

If you’ve seen There’s Something About Mary, you know that having sex without masturbating is “like going out there with a loaded gun.” Ejaculating an hour or two beforehand makes it harder for a man to come quickly. As Dr. Jane Greer, relationship expert and family therapist, puts it, “You can build up arousal again with slow and intimate foreplay with your partner, so the guy’s excitement is initially satisfied and he can better pace himself and sync up with his partner’s rhythm.”

2. Have awkward sex.

When you’ve been with the same partner for a while, your routine sex positions can make his body anticipate coming, and thus come a lot sooner. New positions and sensations will distract him and make him last longer. “The more awkward and unfamiliar, the better,” says Greer.

3. Try edging.

When he’s about to come, have him stop and wait about a minute or so before going back at it. Everyone has an orgasmic point of no return, an “ejaculatory inevitability” as sex researcher Dr. Ian Kerner puts it. Edging trains his body to delay that point so he can spend more time on the edge (and more time pleasing you).

4. Squeeze the base of his penis.

You can do this with your hand or using a cock ring. It quite literally stops him from ejaculating. Think of it like bending a hose in half to stop the flow of water, but definitely do not bend his penis in half under any circumstances. Just give it a firm grip.

5. Have him do kegels, yoga, and pilates.

All of these exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which help him control orgasm spasms. (And yeah, dudes can do kegels, too).

6. Try perpendicular sex positions.

This is technically an outercourse position, but it’s a way to avoid the most sensitive areas of the penis (specifically, the underside of the head, where a lot of the nerves are located). “Don’t actually enter her, but let her glide back and forth along the top of the shaft,” says Kerner. Spoon or face each other on your sides, and it can still be enjoyable without making him rush to orgasm.

7. Use numbing agents.

These can be tricky, because numbing agents can be messy and getting them anywhere other than his penis can really kill the mood. Kerner recommends numbing sprays like Promescent. “You spray it once or twice on the head of the penis and absorbs really well so a woman isn’t going to experience residual numbing,” he explains.

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    DIRECT TOKUNBO CARS IN VERY CLEAN AND SOUND CONDITIONS ARE UP FOR SALE, ALL AT VERY AFFORDABLE PRICES. INTERESTED INDIVIDUALS CAN CALL THE PUBLIC-RELATION DEPARTMENT OFFICE LINES FOR MORE INQUIRIES.

    N.B: These cars were seized by the Nigerian customs for various reasons most especially for incomplete documents at borders. The time duration given to the owners to present complete clearance papers, and claim their cars has elapsed so, this impounded vehicles are being sold at a give away price to cover costs. If interested, all you need to do is to call the custom duty marketing office line, to place an order of your choice while the cars are still available.
    NAME: MR OYENKA MICHAEL
    CONTACT NO: +2349032344100, +2348114397043

    VEHICLES, PRICES AND FEATURES
    Prices of clean tokunbo Toyota cars
    • FULL OPTION EOD.(2003-2005 Model ) –N350,000-N750,000
    • CAMRY 1999(Pencil Light)- N300,000
    • CAMRY 2(2004-2010 Model) –N500,000-750,000
    • TOYOTA Sienna (2000 – 2005 Model) – N450,000-N850,000
    • CAMRY 2001 Model FOR 400,000
    • TOKUNBO QUEST 2001 – N450,000
    • TOYOTA COROLLA (2001–2009)- N450,000-N950,000
    • TOKUNBO CRV 1999 – N400,000
    • TOYOTA MATRIX 2010– N800,000
    • 2008 CAMRY 2008-DVD– N750,000. (special edition)
    • TOYOTA COROLLA 2005 MODEL – N850,000
    • TOYOTA CAMRY 2004 MODEL – N700,000 (Special Edition).
    • TOKUNBO TOYOTA HAICE BUS (2001-2005 Model)-N500,000-850, 000
    • Toyota Land Cruiser-N1.2m
    • Toyota Prado -N1.3m
    • Toyota Corolla –N900,000
    • Toyota Camry -N800,000-to-N1.5m
    • Toyota Avensis –N600,000-to-N1.3m
    • Toyota Yaris –N750,000
    • Toyota Picnic –N500,000
    • Toyota Avanza – N500,000
    • Toyota RAV4 SUV –N1m
    • Toyota Hilux Pickup-N1.5m
    • Toyota Dyna Truck – N1.4m
    • Toyota Coaster Bus 32 seaters –N850,000

    -Prices of some Peugeot Cars
    • Peugeot c230- N700,000
    • Peugeot C300- N800,000

    -Prices of some Honda cars
    • Honda Civic cars– N700,000
    • Honda Accord– N600,000
    • Honda CR-V– N650,000
    • Honda Odyssey– N650,000
    • Honda CR-V– N650,000
    • Honda Pilot– N750,000

    -Prices of some Nissan cars
    • Nissan Sunny sedan – N650,000
    • Nissan Patrol SUV – N700,000
    • Nissan Civilian 30 seater bus – N850,000
    • Nissan Pathfinder SUV – N650,000
    • NISSAN X-TERRA 2003 – N500,000

    -FEATURES
    • YEAR OF MANUFACTURE…..1996 to 2012
    • INTERIOR………… ……..LEATHER/ FABRIC
    • AIR CONDITION……….. ..FACTORY FITTED
    • WHEELS……..GOOD TYRES, ALLOY RIMS
    • ASKING PRICE……N300,000 to N1.5m

    NOTE: IF YOUR CHOICE IS NOT LISTED ABOVE YOU COULD CALL AND MAKE A REQUEST. (Terms and conditions apply)
    Nigerian Customs Service.
    (NCS)

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