The best partners are the ones who make you feel great in your own skin and who you can relax around.
Having doubts about your man? How do you know when it’s time to kick him to the curb? There are all kinds of deal breakers out there, but if you spot one or more of these four red flags, it’s time for him to hit the road.
1. He isn’t supportive.
The modern woman expects a true life partner. Gone are the days of aspiring to take care of a man or putting your needs on the backburner for his. Non-supportive traits include:
-Making fun of or belittling your goals and ambitions in career or life
-Making you feel guilty for spending time at work
-Not helping around the house
-Ignoring you in times of need or distress
-Pressuring you into making life decisions like quitting your job, moving or having children
If you bring it up and he still doesn’t get it, dump him.
2. You can’t be yourself around him.
Are you playing a character of who you think he wants to be with? Not only does this perpetuate a relationship based on lies (even if it’s just through omission), but it also can be detrimental to your emotional well-being. Lying about your job or considering a breast enhancement just to impress someone or to fit into their “ideal” is a bad idea. The best partners are the ones who make you feel great in your own skin and who you can relax around. If you reveal your true self to someone you’re dating, and he doesn’t appreciate your true colors, dump him.
3. He’s a user.
We all know the type – the freeloading dude who spends his days in the coffee shop, nights playing in a band and lives with his parents. However, users aren’t always this easy to spot. It may start slowly as he “forgets” his wallet or has his car “repaired,” but if you notice that these situations are becoming more normal than exceptions, it’s time to run. You are not an ATM, a taxi driver, a cell phone provider, hotel or sex machine. A real relationship consists of contributions from both sides — not just emotionally but also financially. If you think he’s taking advantage of your generosity, dump him.
4. He doesn’t get along with your friends and/or family.
What would life be without your girlfriends? Any person you are seriously considering dating also will most likely spend time with the people in your life who you care about. While variety is the spice of life, if you find that your new boo and your friends or family are getting into knock-down, drag-out fights, he speaks to them inappropriately or talks about them badly in public, despite your feelings, dump him.
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